Life would be great if it were a straight line from start to great finish. As we all know it doesn’t exactly go like that. It’s usually a zig-zag between two steps forward and one step back even for the most profoundly prolific people.
Tiger Woods has lost more than he’s won. A baseball player is considered phenomenal if they get to first base every third time. We seldom see down periods in other’s lives and often only focus on our rough patches despite having mostly positive days.
There are periods in most people’s lives when a difficult stretch extends way beyond what could have been anticipated.
During such times minds can quickly turn from future to questioning if our best accomplishments are behind us. One might wonder if it’s even possible to get to back to peak performance, let alone get better.
I knew an athlete who had a significant injury and despite his best effort to return to competition it was arduously slow from his perspective. His mind went from vigilant compliance with his rehabilitation to massive frustration and fear that he would never get back to his pre-injury function. His perceived progress didn’t match his expectations and efforts, so he started looking for magic potions and sorcerers to short cut his return.
As anticipated his recovery stalled as the push to return sooner strained the injury and blocked further progress. He started to panic further, fearing he wouldn’t get back to full performance and that only postponed his progress more.
He sought my advice and I told him a couple of things. The first two items I list are obvious and included for completeness on his recovery. But, the third item is what I’d like you to continually remind yourself of:
When we’re in that illusionary state of being its critical to stick with the evidence of what we’ve done in the past as the indicator of what’s possible in the future. The only way we won’t get back to better is if we rush to get to where we want to go too quickly or start to act on the misassumption that our best work is behind us.
That’s what I told the athlete. In addition, I also told him that this was at the very least as much a part of his rehabilitation as the exercises he was doing.
When he went on to make the Olympic team he broke down in tears realizing that he was OK, both physically and mentally. He was capable, and his capability never left him. It was his perception of self that created his angst.
What did keep him in the game, during those times of self-doubt to have a full recovery and make the Olympic team, was his self-belief that came from being mindful of his past success showing his competency.
I was overjoyed for him when he won an Olympic Gold Medal.
Belief in self when the evidence is there is skill that works magic. To work its magic that skill must be practiced daily as it doesn’t self-perpetuate.
Never leave home without it.
In the nearly 8 years that my wife and I have lived in Colorado Springs, never have we seen the amount of road construction currently taking place. Whether it’s a main road or side street, there’s no part of town missing out on the “fun”. And it’s not just re-paving or patching potholes. Whole lanes are being ripped up with miles of digging in order to replace underground pipes of all varieties.
At first, I thought all the “weed” sales (pot is legal in Colorado) might be producing the influx of tax funds for all this construction. But a running buddy of mine made me aware of a bill that had passed in the last couple years which freed up an enormous amount of funds for these projects.
Turns out the city has a certain amount of time to spend the money. Based on the number of orange cones and “ROAD WORK AHEAD” signs, it looks as though no penny is being spared.
Millions of people are about to be disappointed –– they don’t even realize it.
Maybe you’re one of them.
Right now, around the world, people are setting new ambitious health goals and resolutions.
And yet, according to Inc Magazine, approximately 80% of New Year's resolutions fail. Most of them buried in an unmarked early grave by February.
Why is that?
How is it that despite all our best intentions and genuine desire to live healthier and be fitter, the most we can hope for is a depressing 20% success rate?
So to help you kickstart your New Year with a healthy lifestyle we are going to breakdown why most goals and resolutions fail and what to do instead.